Let’s face it: Effective parenting is tough. While it definitely offers amazing and wonderful rewards, the day-to-day challenges can feel exhausting and exhilarating – sometimes even all at once!
Learning effective parenting skills takes time, and it’s often a process of trial and error. One issue that many parents agonize over, and many child development researchers disagree on, is spanking.
Every child — and every family situation – is different, so there’s no universal “right” answer when it comes to deciding whether or not to spank. Further, attitudes toward corporal punishment vary based on a range of social and cultural factors, such as nationality, ethnicity, and religion. In fact, 31 countries have passed legislation completely banning corporal punishment, even in the home, and 70 other nations ban spanking in schools. In the U.S., 31 states have laws banning in-school corporal punishment. However, in-home corporal punishment, defined as “the use of physical force with the intention to cause a child to experience pain, but not injury, for the purpose of correction or the control of the child’s behavior — isn’t illegal.
If you can’t decide whether you adhere to the theory of “spare the rod, spoil the child” or prefer to take a gentler approach, here are a few ideas for consideration in effective parenting.
Parents spank for many reasons. Some were spanked by their own parents. Others spank because it offers immediate results or because it’s simply the easiest option.
A 2010 study found that kids who were spanked before age six performed better in school and are more likely to go to college. However, the study also found that kids who were spanked after age six were more likely to exhibit behavioral problems.
Why Not Spank?
Most research shows that spanking has more negative than positive results. Multiple studies show that children who are spanked regularly tend to:
Be more aggressive toward their peers, family and future spouse and children
Believe that hitting is a solution to problems
Have a difficult time regulating themselves
Be at higher risk for low self-esteem, depression, anger, isolation, alcoholism, dependence and abusiveness
https://www.drstevenlazarus.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/loog-300.png00Steven Lazarushttps://www.drstevenlazarus.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/loog-300.pngSteven Lazarus2013-02-10 19:25:452018-03-26 12:21:34To Spank or Not To Spank