Nothing is perfect. We accept this in everything we experience in our lives, including our relationships. But when it comes to the people that matter the most in our life, even though we shouldn’t seek perfection, we shouldn’t let problems and conflicts harm a relationship. There are small problems, which over time cause harm, and then there’s big problems which can really feel impossible to solve. Whether you are struggling with small issues, or big problems, it may be time to step back, assess the situation, and bring in a third party, such as a couples therapist
This is where an experienced Littleton couple’s therapist comes in, and if you’re considering getting some help, here are three ways that couples therapy can improve your relationship.
1 – Better Communication
Communication is the absolute bedrock of any successful relationship, and, unsurprisingly, can often be the biggest causes of problems. Depending on the personal situation, there can be any number of reasons for a breakdown or difficulty in communication. One partner may be naturally introverted and less prone to speaking up. Another partner may have simply never had an opportunity or vehicle to safely express their emotions, and subsequently doesn’t know how. Not feeling heard or understood can cause a person to shut down, or get very frustrated and angry.
By bringing a neutral mediator into a discussion, clear channels of communication can be established, and, through couple’s therapy, better techniques can lead to increased communication between couples to use in everyday life, not just in a therapeutic setting.
2 – New Coping Tools
For many, when an argument or disagreement occurs, unhealthy coping mechanisms are potentially unpleasant and often unproductive. Simply walking out of an argument, giving “the silent treatment,” or even separating and sleeping in separate rooms—or other locations entirely—are closer to retaliatory actions than a means of resolving a problem.
Couples therapy can introduce new tools to a couple to use when there’s a problem that needs to be resolved. Yelling, arguing and similar reactions don’t fix things. Working together with a sincere desire to make things better is easier to do when couples have better coping strategies to deal with life when things aren’t working out.
3 – Gain an Understanding of Each Other
One of the biggest obstacles to couples being in a harmonious relationship is often basic misunderstanding. Couples therapy gives a couple a safe, carefully controlled environment in which to explore the heart of certain issues. Understanding each other is critically important in being able to successfully resolve problems.
This is a chance for couples to say what matters, explore unrecognized feelings and honestly confront what they really want or don’t want. By being honest, loving, and patient, couples have a much greater chance of working together to develop win/ win solutions.
Littleton couples therapy doesn’t have to be just for troubled marriages. Any couple, whether it’s a new relationship wanting to start off on the right foot, or a couple simply wanting to improve what’s already there, can experience real, powerful, lifelong benefits by taking the time to strengthen a relationship through couples therapy.
Dr. Steven Lazarus can help you work through any couples therapy issues you may have.